The third installment for Christmas is giving. 

Right away I go to the old adage, “It’s better to give than to receive.” 

Obviously, this was written by someone who just didn’t understand how energy works. You can’t have giving without receiving. You can’t receive without having someone give. It’s a circle. A complete experience of energy going out and being returned to us. 


I love to give. I come alive when I give. It excites me to make people happy. The lesson I had to learn was not to give so much that I moved into resentment and lack for myself. Some people in my life are focused on how little they can give while still completing the experience of giving to others. That doesn’t allow their hearts to open and complete the experience.

I think we have to define giving in our personal lives. To some it is big, lavish, expensive gifts. To some it is delicious baked goods made lovingly by hand. I know my favorite gifts in the world are my daughter’s poems and collages and pictures she made for me at Christmas.  

The important issue to address in giving is: am I giving joy and appreciation for this person from my heart … and am I receiving the love and appreciation from them to me? Because without both, giving isn’t complete.

This holiday I send my love to all of you, giving you the true admiration I have for you for bravely embracing your self- responsibility of creation, and giving YOURSELF the love that you deserve. 

My heart fills up with appreciation and, yes, adoration for each and everyone of you. And I know as my love goes out, it is already returned from your heart back to me. Thank you. I receive it. And honor it. And bless it. 

May we continue practicing Recigive all year, and create this wonderful circle of giving with each other, ourselves, and the Universe. 

Happy Holidays my beautiful people!


“If you’re giving love and not receiving it, you’re not in the right relationship. If you’re receiving it and not giving it, then you are taking advantage of the other person.” 

-Patti Stanger