This past week we held a life celebration for my dear friend Bruce Cameron. Bruce was one of my oldest friends: we traded paying each other’s rents in hard times, he was my husband’s writing partner, and we all started having babies around the same time. In other words, he was one of those friends who was a life partner in my life’s creation.
As his fiancé and I were putting together a list of people to notify, we began reminiscing about our other friends who were no longer here to attend. Friends who had left way too early in life. Friends we all started out with together. It occurred to me I was way too young to have lost all these people already. It was a bit….unsettling.
I don’t think we will ever understand why people leave so early.
All we can do is accept that they, on some soul level, chose to move on. All we can do is love, honor, celebrate and remember them. It is not ours to judge, or to be a victim of their choice. It is our responsibility to embrace our own calling, and choose to rise to the greatest people we can achieve to be. That is what they want: move on, be happy, create, and every once in a while, remember.
So here’s to you Bruce! And Maria. And Chris. And Barbara. And George. All beloved members of the original gang who are now gone. I celebrate you and the memories you gave me. But for right now, I am choosing to stay…for a very long time. See you on the other side….eventually.
“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies within us as we live.”
– Norman Cousins